7 Proven Ways You Can Use to Handle Stress.

Stress is amazingly persistent because we get used to feeling tight and tense that we would feel lost without it. At least for a while. Positive thinking is extremely useful in handling stress but it has to be backed up by  practical wisdom and incite or it tends to   fade away. Here are seven proven ways you will find useful in controlling stress:

1. Control your REACTION with these 7 simpler thoughts.

Your reaction to situations is critical to the way you are affected. When people try to unload their nervous comments and attitudes on you.

The first step is to remain alert when people try to weigh you down with their nervous comments and attitudes. You can repel their attack by simply changing the subject or don’t reply at all. Silence is golden. This puts them in a position to either walk away or move to another subject that may illicit a reply. As the saying goes, misery loves company.

Inner life author Vernon Howard writes, “An attitude of defeat in another person cannot touch you unless you carelessly accept it as yours. And there is no need at all for you to accept it. A quiet refusal to enter the battlefield is the perfect reply.’

2. Let go of the painful memories of the past.

Hating someone or holding grudges is like drinking poison and hoping that the person you hate will die from it. We need to remember that yesterday is gone and any actions or words are gone with it. You cannot take them back. Reliving those events and words become a poison to your own mind. Whether you are religious or not believe that their is a higher power, whatever you wish to call it. Those that have offended us are as susceptible to that power as we are. Let go.
The secret to success without stress is to live in the present moment.  NOW is so alive and energetic, so tangible and real, that painful grudges cannot “live” here.

3.Treat Negative Thoughts as a test. Observe and Understand Them.

Look into yourself constantly. When negative thoughts come into your experience, try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see how you would feel if you were on the other side of the issue. By observing your own reaction leads to better understanding which leads to stress free living. Pay close attention to misinformation and assumptions. If you are unsure of the meaning of a comment try to avoid jumping to conclusions. Take a second look from different angles.You may find that your first impression was wrong.

4. Enjoy a deep breath

People are often so tense with stressful thinking they barely breathe! Take brief breaks many times a day, even if for only 30 seconds! We can pause, take a deep breathe, look around and relax. Laugh often and smile at a passerby. You may be pleasantly surprised at the reaction you get. Most people will smile back. It is a good feeling to have when people smile at you
Suppose you feel tempted to give in to someone when you know you should not. Instantly fall into internal relaxation. Breathe away your tensions. Your habitually anxious and resentful attitudes will fall away like leaves from a tree. They will be replaced by a clear mind that reveals what is best for you.

5. Realize you have far better things to think about!

Thinking in the  old way will keep you in the same groove you have always been in. Old beliefs tend to keep you in the past. Seek change at all times, always reaching for higher ground. Things are changing so fast it makes your head spin. Why should old ideas and concepts remain useful if nothing is the same as it was? Your mental attitude will determine your life. Make sure your thoughts reflect what you would like to be. When these negative old movies start to play in your mind  tell yourself that you have better things to think about. You’ll feel much less stress and an abundance of new vitality as you reclaim the energy once consumed by these negative mental film clips.

6. Stay clear of negative  influences.

Negative influences  come from so many places. Like frantic people, misleading advertising,  untruthful politics. Don’t forget that unaware people want you to vibrate on their stressful level. The fact is they don’t even know how unaware they are simply because they give up their right and responsibility to think for themselves and swallow all the negative garbage that is constantly floating around out there. Of course, “Misery Loves Company.” Do not let them occupy your space. It is your duty, your noble mission in life, to live in harmony with your Heart — YOUR AUTHENTIC AND INTELLIGENT SELF. Though physically you may be in a stressful place, once you connect with your Heart you have the spiritual power to stay free inwardly. Stay clear of negative influences.

7. Refuse to make stressful or angry comments.

Stress   is like a snowball rolling down a hill that starts small then gathers size and speed. Therefore, we must stop it in its infancy. The best place to do so is BEFORE it leaves your mouth.
Here’s how you do it. You are about to say something angry or hurtful to another person. Once the statement leaves your mouth there is no turning back. Once you become aware of what you were about to say you make a higher choice and say something pleasant and cheerful instead.

You’ll instantly feel the trueness of practicing this exercise. Anger or stress did not succeed in dictating your speech. Your power of choice lifted you above its arrows. This is not the practice of phony niceness. It is the expression of true strength and authentic self-command It can only occur when your awareness is active, like the presence of a lighted lodge in the dark forest.

Conclusion:

The one supreme power that guarantees personal happiness is right thinking. This “right thinking” is based on practical wisdom. Try these seven methods and you’ll see a huge difference in your life.